Bringing up Conflict, Part One: Is it Safe?
Added 2024-03-24 16:45:02 +0000 UTCHi! I hope you're having a lovely day and weekend. Some of you already noticed, but this week I'm making it official online, that I've changed my name to Genevieve. 😊
Today's resource was patron-requested, "how do you effectively bring up conflict?" While we can't control how we're heard, I'm happy to share tools that I use to minimize the chances I'm misunderstood, and to try to avoid setting an adversarial vibe to the conversation. But, before we get into that, I think there's value in asking ourselves, "do we even want to bring up this conflict? Is it safe?"
Today, part one will go into weighing risks of confrontation, and factors we might want to consider for our, and their, safety. Next week, I'll offer part two, which will go into some literal tools and language that I use. I hope both of these videos can be of service.
Timecode:
0.00 - Intro / Is it safe?
2.52 - Physical safety
5.34 - Material safety
8.38 - Emotional safety
11.20 - Do they make it easier or harder to challenge them?
14.29 - Am I safe to challenge, too?
16.00 - Outro
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Transcript attached at the bottom of this post, auto-generated by Otter AI.
With love,
Genevieve
Comments
Thanks for asking! While I love the French pronunciation, it would feel weird to ask people to use an accent that isn’t my own, so I and my offline community have been using the American English accent, “JEN-uh-veev” ☀️💛
Morgan
2024-04-01 14:04:14 +0000 UTCCongratulations on your new name and I hope you’ve been feeling safe + affirmed in your online spaces since the change! This is maybe such a silly question, but how do you prefer to pronounce it? It really only matters in my own brain but it’s neurospicy in there haha…thank you!
Corinne
2024-04-01 13:54:01 +0000 UTCThinking of conflict or hard conversations as "Us vs. the issue" is so helpful! As is considering how others may perceive conflicts in public (especially with biases), and mapping out resources/support for worse case scenarios. And finally, thanks for highlighting the need to check in on how we ourselves can make it hard for others to bring hard topics to us.
Marc Mazique
2024-03-25 19:19:51 +0000 UTC
