LIVE CHAT: On Burnout, Subtle Coercion, and Financial Power in Polycules
Added 2023-09-11 12:25:54 +0000 UTCHere's the video and transcript from yesterday's Live Chat! The next one will be some time mid winter, I hope to see you there again.
And just a reminder that switching to Patreon Video took away the option of chapter markers (for now), but I'll include the timecode here of the various questions, so hopefully you can still jump to areas of interest.
Timecode:
- 00.00 Coping with angst in new connections
- 05.15 How to deal with burnout in polysaturation?
- 11.43 When are partners' conflicts not our business?
- 15.55 How to push back when the polycule assumes you're fine, that you don't have needs, or are tough so "can handle it"?
- 19.50 Growing pains in long term polyamory, dating again after a while of the status quo
- 24.25 When financially interdependent with a partner, how do we not let that negatively impact others? Considering money, power and class in extended polycules. Valuing unpaid labor, confronting entitlement or internalized classism / shame
- 36.45 Expanding on cults and abuse networks. Rebuilding new community after the trauma of a high control group
- 48.25 Is threatening a breakup a boundary or ultimatum? And if it's about another person, is that a covert veto or attempted coercion?
- 56.05 Outro
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Automated transcription attached at the bottom of this post, via Otter AI
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Morgan
Comments
Being honest about my anxieties has started to help ease away from my automatic response of suppressing and getting frustrated, etc. It does feel really vulnerable to talk through these things with my partner, but I think we both feel more comfortable afterwards. So basic a skill but so crucial.
Lee Korotash-Gullett
2023-10-07 17:39:03 +0000 UTCPS So sorry for all the negative energy and attention you've had to deal with this week.
Marc Mazique
2023-09-11 20:07:20 +0000 UTC
