February Bonus Story #2
Added 2024-02-21 21:10:51 +0000 UTCThis months second bonus story touches on a topic that tends to get people heated.. abortion. Please be respectful with your comments, and let's make the conversation surrounding this one very civil. As Lauren says towards the end, this feels like a scary conversation to have.. when it really shouldn't be.
Comments
She is not that cheating man’s incubator. Her choice!!!
Mary Kate
2024-11-19 07:34:54 +0000 UTCI know I’m late, but the pregnancy one, she is not the asshole for getting an abortion. It’s not her responsibility to give him a child.
Aline
2024-09-17 17:16:58 +0000 UTCI wish I had listened to this episode and Justin’s advice before having my own abortion weeks ago. I deeply regret it and grieve everyday. I wish I hadn’t rushed into it, I wish I would’ve sat on it for just a little bit longer, and I may have changed my mind. Just want to add a note, just because I regret my abortion doesn’t mean that you or someone else will. Pro-choice always 🫶🏻
Kenzie Kennedy
2024-08-14 19:37:45 +0000 UTCmy blood is BOILING listening to this. if he is not man enough to commit to his FIANCE, he is not man enough to be a parent. let alone a single parent. if he wanted to be a dad that bad, he should have prioritized his partner and he didn’t.
cassidy peairson
2024-08-06 21:55:12 +0000 UTCNot being disrespectful is different than shrinking back and avoiding what is essentially a Healthcare access issue to not step on anyone's toes. Only one side of this debate is forcing their views on others/removing healthcare options for large swaths of the population. Be an advocate for what you believe, otherwise the loudest voices will eventually win out ... and as of late, it's pretty obvious which voices are screaming over the cacophony.
Holly Helget
2024-07-16 18:43:46 +0000 UTCYou guys were super respectful navigating this difficult topic. It is so important to respect people who have views different than your own. While personally I would never get an abortion I can totally respect OP if that’s the decision that she makes, especially given the circumstances.
Asha Hasnain
2024-04-05 02:14:09 +0000 UTCI'm open to discussion on this but I think since he cheated he proved his priorities weren't her- and she's the one that bears the child- I feel like he would have left if the sneak got pregnant- I hope she doesn't regret this- it's a terrible situation no matter WHAT decisions were/are made
arcticanimal121
2024-04-04 19:47:37 +0000 UTCActually thank you for giving me this perspective
arcticanimal121
2024-04-04 19:43:46 +0000 UTCDude this is such a hard decision GOW LONG WAS HE CHEATING?!?!??
arcticanimal121
2024-04-04 19:43:12 +0000 UTCI agree abortion can be complicated but I don’t think we should readily accept people who think it should be illegal
Audrey de Szendeffy
2024-03-29 17:33:32 +0000 UTCThere shouldn't be any discussion as to whether someone with a uterus should have the right to their own body and choices
Hailey Hoffman
2024-03-02 19:17:55 +0000 UTCYou guys did a great job discussing this! Props to you 🫶🏽
Chelsea Dempsey
2024-03-02 01:28:16 +0000 UTCNaw I agree with you on this one. Good discussion guys
Izzy Agnello
2024-03-01 05:00:48 +0000 UTCShe should keep the baby if SHE wants the baby, but not FOR him. That's the problem. If you are doing it for the wrong reason she might grow resentment towards that child and that's not fair. What he did doesn't change and the situation exposes so much about him as a person. If he is really someone she wants to be tied to forever then go ahead. If not, you can be a mom with someone else.
Nia Violet
2024-02-28 19:58:40 +0000 UTCI agree, but at the end of the day she can be a mom with someone else's baby.
Nia Violet
2024-02-28 19:53:34 +0000 UTCWomen are not incubators, no matter how unfortunate another person’s circumstance might be. 🫶🏼🖤
Kaslin Baros
2024-02-26 00:37:48 +0000 UTCFool me Once IS SO GOOD!!! i highly recommend to watch every netflix show made by the same director, HE IS AMAZING
Mya Carbajal
2024-02-25 23:45:14 +0000 UTCA while back I was once very upset with one of Justin’s responses to a topic (I had messaged) but I’m here to say Justin’s response was so spot on and accurate , I think I yelled YES JUSTIN YES!! Wanted to comment rather then message to publicly say I think what I felt last time was a one off and this shows how thoughtful he truly is..
NYRangersJess
2024-02-25 03:05:31 +0000 UTCI don’t think there is any reason to be scared to post your takes on this one!! You were very considerate of both sides of this situation, I think it was a really good discussion. For me, I think it makes sense for her to terminate a pregnancy that would tie her to a relationship that ended up being toxic for her. I think maybe if there IS time for them to discuss the cheating together before she does that, and if she feels like this is something they can more forward from in a productive and positive way, and if she is okay being tied to him forever (and it really is forever if there is a child involved) then that’s something to consider. But if this behavior is part of a pattern, which nobody seems to have asked on Reddit, it could be entirely warranted. (It is warranted if the OP carrying the child wants to end the pregnancy, of course, but in terms of the actual behavior and this being the terms of cutting off the relationship, that’s what I mean.) This is a tough one!!! In the end, really this is up to her. No matter her reasons, no matter her circumstances. AND, I think if she was initially ecstatic to be pregnant, she should take the time to consider. Especially if she herself wants children someday.
Bri Ryder
2024-02-25 01:12:58 +0000 UTCI don't think I could ever give up parental rights either 🥺
Mamabear8654
2024-02-24 15:32:17 +0000 UTCWow, this is so tough!!! I fully get spiralling after hearing you can’t have kids. But cheating on your fiancée in your shared home & bed is beyond the pale. I agree she should process this and take the time if she has it to think this through, talk to a professional, etc. But also think his feelings and fertility issues should not be a factor. This is all on him and if he does end up losing his only chance at a biological child, that is the consequence of his dumbass, self pitying wallowing-ass actions. He fucked around and found out. Now he has to live with it.
Michelle
2024-02-24 14:25:30 +0000 UTCI think you might of misheard that, he was suggesting for her to have the baby, give up HER parental rights and HE raises it. He fully wants to be this babies parent, if she has it, he fully intends to be involved, even to be the sole parent. She however knows herself well enough to know that if she has the baby, she won’t be able to give up her parental rights.
Michelle
2024-02-24 14:18:52 +0000 UTCI appreciate you guys so much, your content and the way you go about discussing stories and situations makes me so happy !! you guys are awesome ! make sure to take care of yourselves!!!
Amiyah
2024-02-24 12:57:56 +0000 UTCShe absolutely is NOT an asshole. It’s her choice. I hope she thinks it through and chooses the best option for HER. He has no right to try to pressure her into having the baby when he obviously didn’t care about her in the first place.
Beccah Lynn
2024-02-23 23:35:17 +0000 UTCSeeing that she was excited when she found out about her pregnancy, I think she needs to figure out if she wants to be a mother regardless of her ex fiancé’s actions. I think that abortion is a huge decision & like you guys said she could end up regretting it in the future. If she has time, she should speak with a professional about her options before making any decisions especially since emotions are running high during early pregnancy.
ash c
2024-02-23 10:01:25 +0000 UTCI think you guys handled this conversation really gracefully 🙌🏼 hot take but I think this guys is really hurting and it’s sad. knowing that you can’t give yourself and the person you love a family you both want makes sense why he would spiral like that. obviously cheating was not the answer and he made the biggest mistake of his life doing so. Hopefully he can get therapy and work through this but damn that’s a lot to work through. I fully support her decision as I couldn’t be tied to that person and their issues and bad energy for the rest of my life either. You would want to give your child the best home life and this doesn’t seem like it would’ve been how they initially dreamed.
Rocky 8
2024-02-23 08:46:28 +0000 UTCit happened for a reason it was a sign , also ur comment about pro life pro choice , i personally wouldn’t abort but for someone else do what makes u happy i don’t care it’s not my life , ppl calling her a beast like how does this affect them
Ylena Camou
2024-02-23 01:10:46 +0000 UTCexactlyyyy. and even though he said she cna have full custody and he'll sign away his rights... we all know thats a big fat lie. him and his big ego will fight tooth and nail on every decision involving that child
Mary Hallaren
2024-02-22 23:44:31 +0000 UTCNot her problem he’s got defective balls!
Christiana Garcia
2024-02-22 22:07:27 +0000 UTCYES! I don't even care if it looks like revenge, that's just a happy accident. It would be because he has bad character. Period.
Mamabear8654
2024-02-22 20:26:42 +0000 UTCThis is an interesting one.. But I can say with absolute certainty as a mom of 2 I wouldn't keep that baby. In my opinion there's no way I'd let a man who did that to me try to convince me to be an incubator for a baby I don't want to raise with him. I have a very deep hatred for cheaters anyway and I think it says a lot about someone's character. I would never trust him to be a good co parent
Mamabear8654
2024-02-22 20:25:39 +0000 UTCThis is a great story to support abortion rights. Yes her feelings were high, but had she not been pregnant we know she still would have left him. She does not want to be tied with him and she doesn’t have to be. She also has the right to terminate a pregnancy to support her choice and take care of herself.
bri avina
2024-02-22 19:30:30 +0000 UTCMentioned, not "me ruined". I'm typing quickly at work.
Tiana L.P Sennie
2024-02-22 19:01:21 +0000 UTCEven though I was getting rather heated there at the beginning, I think you guys did a great job handling this topic because it is extremely difficult to discuss with others. This topic was me ruined only once several months ago at my work and it is STILL causing major problems. I am pro-choice, I will always be pro-choice, but I agree, the fight should be for better healthcare and never be for control over what women do with their bodies.
Tiana L.P Sennie
2024-02-22 19:00:33 +0000 UTCThis!!!
Andrea Garcia
2024-02-22 17:19:19 +0000 UTCThis is such a huge sign to have an abortion she literally would not have caught him other wise
Andrea Garcia
2024-02-22 17:19:11 +0000 UTCI hope she got an abortion, she just caught the man with an escort he is obviously not a respectful adult if he has the audacity to do that to his fiancé, it shows the type of person he is you don’t want this trauma for you or for this child.
Andrea Garcia
2024-02-22 17:18:51 +0000 UTClast three minutes were so well said!! you guys use your platform so well, glad this was posted!!
Maria
2024-02-22 16:07:30 +0000 UTCThank you!!! 😭🙌
Alyssa Koloske
2024-02-22 12:44:47 +0000 UTCYou're going to crush it!!! Just take your time and think it through
Two Hot Takes
2024-02-22 07:12:26 +0000 UTCWhy did Justin say bye like that at the end lol “go-baiii” lmao cute
Syriah
2024-02-22 01:43:01 +0000 UTCbut at the end of the day i agree with justin. if she has the privilege of time then she should sleep on it
Mary Hallaren
2024-02-22 01:15:52 +0000 UTCI would terminate just on the basis of not wanting that scumbag to be a father. god that poor girl
Mary Hallaren
2024-02-22 01:11:28 +0000 UTCLol he can fuq off. So worried that OP referring to the embryo as “my baby” is going to cause more hurt psychologically if she goes through with the abortion.
Tayler Hammond
2024-02-22 00:23:05 +0000 UTCDefinitely not the first time he cheated… 😒
Gem Hdz
2024-02-21 23:49:36 +0000 UTCshe is 100% NOT the asshole. he made his bed, now he’s gonna sleep alone in it
Katelynn Stanford
2024-02-21 23:49:03 +0000 UTCThis was an intense story! It was really good though! I truly hope OP figures things out… Thanks guys for this story and your takes!
Jessica Lee
2024-02-21 23:37:59 +0000 UTCMorgan I sooo needed this rn, I’m taking my NBCOT exam tomorrow and listening to a good bonus story is a perfect lil break. Also definitely gonna listen to the new ep on my way to the test tomorrow 🙌
Alyssa Koloske
2024-02-21 23:32:41 +0000 UTCi really enjoyed this story and hearing your opinions. it is a tough story to weigh in on, especially with how polarizing this topic is, but i think it is important to discuss these hard hitting matters. probably best it was done on patreon for sure but i absolutely appreciate the fact you have talked about it!! well done to all three of you & good pick lauren!! looking forward to meeting you all at the live show in chicago 😊❤️
Colleen Schmidt
2024-02-21 23:28:27 +0000 UTCthis story makes me so so sad, especially as she was coming home to see him and tell him the news
Ayy Bee
2024-02-21 22:57:34 +0000 UTCOut of respect, she would have included him in the decision but he had zero respect for her. She gets to make that decision on her own. She is not his incubator. I do agree she should give herself some time to make the best decision for herself but at this point his opinion doesn’t matter. Great story!
Kimberly Luna
2024-02-21 22:24:48 +0000 UTCYou hit the nail on the head saying that whatever she chooses, whatever makes her happy, is the right choice. I think the ex husband lost the privilege to be a part of her life and have a say in her decisions when he cheated. I feel really bad for OP, I’m sure she got a lot of support in the comments but she probably also got a lot of backlash. I hope she finds peace at the end of this all, with whatever decision she makes 🤍
Alison Lanning
2024-02-21 21:42:13 +0000 UTCI didn't mean to????
Lauren Corbett
2024-02-21 21:26:33 +0000 UTC
