My Top Date Ideas (And How To Avoid Relationship From Going Stagnant)

Hello guys, here is my list of date ideas.

If you're a woman, reading this. send it to the guy you are dating.

These lists I'm about to present  are in NO PARTICULAR ORDER OF IMPORTANCE

I will start off with the ones that cost the lowest prices and they all gradually get more expensive.

To keep a relationship alive, you must continue dating your partner. Failure to do so will lead to the relationship falling apart.

You don’t get into a relationship and then stop doing everything you did to get him/her. You must continue doing what you did to get them in the first place.

So here are some date ideas to keep a relationship alive.

For first dates

1. A walk in the park to feed ducks (It’s better to do this during summer)
2. Picnic (better in summer)
3. Museum / free galleries
4. Meet up for drinks / or a coffee
5. Minigolf

Ideally you want to avoid anywhere that won’t give you a chance to be able to properly talk to one another as it’s the first date and you want to use that to properly get to know her. The first date should not involve doing something that may make you break a sweat.

You also do not want to do activities which are too adventurous or spontaneous as that can set a more of a friendly ‘best friends hanging out’ type of vibe.

The first date needs to be something with a romantic vibe that allows you to look cool, seductive and stay within the masculine/seductive frame.

This first date should not be too extravagant either as that can come across like you are trying too hard to impress her.

NEVER - EVER- Try To “Impress Her” On The Date

If there is one single piece of the puzzle that is absolutely KEY, it is this. Never try to “impress” a woman.

This needs clarification : by trying to impress I mean:

Doing something out of the ordinary with the express purpose of making her like you, or be impressed enough by you, to consider sleeping with you or offering any kind of sexual favours.

e.g. Taking her to an exceptionally expensive restaurant, paying for everything, to show her how much money you have and how you can look after her, etc

As a tactic to get women on the first date, it may actually work, in a limited way. You may get laid by certain types of women by doing it.

There is a fine distinction to make here: of course you will be as witty and charming as you can be, and you will show her a good time.

But you must NOT try and bamboozle her and show off, or do anything in a way that is unlike your usual self in order to fit in with what you think she wants.

This does not mean of course that you do not want to make a girl happy, of course you do. But in the early stages of a relationship, on the first date, if you want the relationship to be based on a solid foundation, the first date should be about finding out about each other.

The location, what you are doing etc, is almost irrelevant (though of course some venues are more suited to seductions than others.)

If the first date dynamic is set up that you are acting in such a way to try and win her favour instead of finding out who you are as people, then you are on the wrong track.

There is a lot of people that say you should always have a CHEAP first date in mind. The underlying point is correct but it is easily open to misinterpretation.

Like I mentioned you should read from this that you shouldn’t set up the dynamic that you are there to IMPRESS her by buying her things, as a way of currying favour and trying to get sex.

You should instead be thinking along the lines of: ”This first date is a chance to get to know each other, to see how we get along, I already know she likes me, let’s find out if she’s a cool girl.”

Sex is not something to worry about, it will happen if the vibe is right.

DO NOT let her take advantage of you and DO NOT buy her things in the hopes of winning favours i.e. sex.

If she’s a student and you’re rich then it may seem fairer to you to be paying more often. Your main focus should be : does she appear to be INVESTING in the time together. Don’t be concerned with whoever is spending the money on the first date (infact this generally applies at any time)

Second and third dates (now you can start to have to have a bit of fun)

1. Ice skating
2. Rollerskating
3. Go Karting
4. Clay shooting / the gun range / archery / axe throwing
5. Bowling and food
6. London eye (or similar)
7. Rent those public bikes and go for a bike ride together in a nice park.
8. Arcade
9. Go berry or apple-picking. Girls love doing stuff like this
10. Go to a drive-In movie.
11. Go zip lining
12. Go to to an aquarium.
13. Go to the zoo
14. Paint balling 
15. If you drive, you can go to those drive through zoos
16. Visit a chocolate factory, vineyard, or brewery that gives tours.

17. Movie marathons 

(You each get to pick a couple of movies of your choice (no arguments) and watch them one after the other. Even if one movie turns out to be boring, you still have a few others to look forward to. put phone on DND as well)

18. Have a gym date 

(make sure to do this is on your rest day, you don’t wana go on a day you wana hit Pr’s or a day when it should be an intense session. And because her feminine energy is around, your focus wouldn’t 100% be on the session. So go on a rest day, bang a few reps with her, get that pump, look good and have a fun gym date.)

By second date, it is very important (if you haven’t already) made your move and kiss her, get >>slightly<< bit more touchy with her as well. This is when you want to be slowly trying to escalate and progress things in a more sexual way. 

If you don't wish to do so because of religious or personal reasons, that's okay but you will most likely have to be with a girl who is on the same wavelength as yourself. 

Because failure to progress things will make it seem as if you are afraid, timid, don't know to lead, it could lead to her thinking you aren’t into her like that and will just see you as a friend or even worse.....a brother.

These type of dates of should only be reserved for girls who are main chick / have girlfriend potential

Do not break the bank if you cannot currently afford these things…

1. Ask her where she’d like to go or what she would like to do. It’s okay for her to suggest things that you go along and do too
2. Movie night in. She can come over, she cooks (or you get takeaway) and enjoy the evening together
3. Stay inside and chill together, not EVERY date has to be outside doing an exciting activity.
4. Comedy shows
5. Concerts
6. Wine tasting (if you drink alcohol)
7. Theatre shows
8. Dinner in the sky (google it)
9. Events
10. Go hiking together
11. Go camping in the woods (please prepare accordingly)
12. Skydiving (if jumping out of plane is too terrifying, you can do the indoor skydiving)
13. Horse riding
14. Hire a private chef to cook for you
15. Winter wonderland
16. Holidays together
17. Spa weekend
18. Helicopter city tours
19. Boat tour
20. Weekend getaways
21. Trying different restaurants together

You can give a woman everything except boredom.

You don’t have to try to wonder her with the most fantastic dates every week, but do not get complacent. Every few weeks or so, you should be doing something nice.

Depending on how far into the courtship you are, she should also be contributing to this.

If you are rich and she's nowhere near your financial level, then that’s an exception.

People get bored with their partners for many reasons. But it can probably all be narrowed down to one main culprit. Complacency.

When you become complacent in a relationship, your interactions with each other become stagnant and stale. It gives a brother and sister / roommates vibe.

This complacency doesn’t just happen out of nowhere. People end up taking each other for granted. They stop consciously engaging their gf/bf, and carry on in the relationship almost as if they were roommates rather than lovers.

This will likely happen in a relationship after the initial “honeymoon phase” has long since worn off. However, this phase never has to die out if you’re doing things right. But a relationship will inevitably die without conscious efforts from both sides to keep that spark alive.

Over time, people become so familiar with their gf/bf, their routines, their habits, the way they talk, look, act, that, for many of them, they no longer feel that spark of excitement they felt in the beginning of the relationship. When everything was new, it was unpredictable, and that made it fun. But that kind of love energy usually fades after a while.

For some types of people, once they know they have someone, the drive to keep them can feel uninteresting. The chase is over.

If you’re around each other all the time, this is not good and will absolutely breed complacency. 

You may also develop resentments towards each other. You must have time apart enough to create the feeling of missing each other. And that can’t happen if you spend all day every day attached at the hip. 

Have away time from each other. 

Have time set aside exclusively for you, where your partner will not be around.

Keep in shape, or get a workout routine. If you start letting yourself go, your gf/bf might think you’ve stopped caring about yourself, so how could you possibly care for them?

Despite how fun it can be to fantasise, true love in relationships does not just magically happen or sustain itself. Real love in a relationship is a choice, and it takes consistent, conscious effort.

Which is why I always say that MOST people are not in a position to be in one, yet. Especially most young men.

Till next time.