Update on a December Story!
Added 2025-01-07 22:46:20 +0000 UTCWe have an update from one of our December full episode stories! I'm pleasantly surprised with how the boyfriend seems to be stepping up. What are your thoughts and where do we think this is going to head?
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I feel they don't respect her, just using her because she has money. DOLLAR STORE GIFTS???? No. That's straight disrespectful.
Bri Winans
2025-01-19 18:57:40 +0000 UTCI think her horses are back in Minnesota? I could be wrong!
Alexis
2025-01-11 00:11:36 +0000 UTCAre you guys okay? Is your dad okay??????
Hailee
2025-01-09 18:17:58 +0000 UTCMorgan im praying you, your family and your animals are safe out there ♥️ please update us when you can
TomiCats
2025-01-09 16:32:41 +0000 UTCNot all gifts need to costs money, and not even congratulating her on her birthday?! You can send a homemade card. They don't care much about her, they feel entitled to her gifts. Also who brings gifts to a NYE? They said '....come celebrate NYE with us as the baby is in stable condition, and we will celebrate the baby’s recovery. No need to bring anything for us, just the baby” Not every celebration needs gifts, they are just seeing what opportunities they can make to have OP bring gifts.
Norma
2025-01-09 11:56:48 +0000 UTCOff topic but I hope you and your family are safe if you are currently in California!!
Samantha
2025-01-09 06:45:41 +0000 UTCIve been through similar things with my boyfriends family. Went maybe 4 years, maybe more, without them ever getting me any sort of gift for christmas, when I would be the one doing the gift giving (boyfriend and I would split costs...but i did all the shopping). His parents are divorced and have healthy income and families, but we would show up and it would be just gifts for him. By year 2 or 3 I told him how much that hurt that they didnt even consider me (they have plenty of money. And its the thought that counts for me). So I told him he would be in charge of the gifts. Well, I like helping him still, so we together, baked his family goody boxes. That felt better, but it was still a lot of work! They finally in the past few years started getting me gifts as well. Sometimes they still give only him presents, like during covid his stepmom sewed face masks for the family but didn't give me one. It really hurts when you dont receive the appreciation you are giving! Im so glad OP was able to talk to her bf and he helped the situation. Sometimes we make things worse in our heads than they are and people don't actually mean to have bad intentions.
Alexis
2025-01-08 20:01:20 +0000 UTCI loveee that BF stood up for her. I feel like it's so rare to hear about, but it really is the bare minimum. He noticed the issue and did his best to resolve it while protecting and defending his partner. She seems like a genuinely good person who was being taken advantage of by his family. Money issues or not it's never okay to treat someone like they're a bank just because you know they have more money than you. I can see this turning into no contact eventually, hopefully his family gets it together.
Madison Zenker
2025-01-08 17:47:37 +0000 UTCHer original post didn't make much sense and I think she was struggling to explain why she felt so used when she only had the vibes to go off. But boy was her gut right! Lesson to us all, when entering a new family always joint presents. The fact she rocked up with her own gift is really strange, I would always do joint gifts if I'm essentially a plus one to an event (only invited because I'm a SO). Then for more intermittent things like a family Christmas I think you have to get your Partner to suss out if family plan to get you a gift and what the general gift budget the family stick to. My sister in law came into our family matching what she spends on her own family with the gifts she organised from her and my brother, which was significantly more than we usually spend in my family. I let my brother know the gifts were lovely but to please lower the budget to match our families usual gift giving budget range the next year. Otherwise it's awkward and I couldn't afford to raise my budget to match. Similar situation with us having just had a baby and them being kid free. No way would I be running around asking for her to not come to Christmas but still send me an expensive gift!
Rebecca Sanders
2025-01-08 08:34:47 +0000 UTCI love that BF stood up to his family. It's refreshing with these reddit stories. The dollar store gifts is wild.
Mary
2025-01-08 08:18:25 +0000 UTCI love that the boyfriend is finally putting his foot down and sticking up for his girlfriend. His family, however, is a walking 🚩Struggling financially does not validate their behavior or for viewing their son and his girlfriend as a pocketbook. If you don't have the financial means to purchase gifts, then be honest and disclose that information privately (communicate people!!) or get creative and find things you can make at home to show your appreciation. But, seeing as they didn't do any of that, and only chose to say anything AFTER the son put boundaries into place makes me thing something isn't genuine and that there are some manipulative tactics going on.
Liz
2025-01-08 03:26:39 +0000 UTCNo bc why does that sound like my aunt she buys me dollar tree and my bf dollar tree gifts but she says “it’s really expensive genuine crystal” 😭
Ylena Camou
2025-01-08 01:41:07 +0000 UTChahaha I love that energy.. its not too bad since its just the snippet at the bottom but essentially.. boyfriend set them all straight that they are doing joint gifts now. His family bought her all these dollar store items to try and make up for it and justify her still doing her own gifts. BF said nah not good enough. They want to do a NYE celebration with her to get more presents lol. Family is now coming out of the woodwork that they are in a really bad financial situation and they're doing so well so they need their help. It's quite the sticky situation and I feel a further update will be needed
Two Hot Takes
2025-01-08 01:20:43 +0000 UTCI really wanna know, but I’m not reading all that
Ylena Camou
2025-01-08 00:55:18 +0000 UTCit feels like they are still trying to manipulate them into feeling sorry for them so they can receive more, the explanation just doesn’t sound genuine to me
Pamela Condello
2025-01-07 23:52:28 +0000 UTCThe boyfriend is a keeper! But the family has a bunch of red flags. It sounds like they feel entitled and that isn't something that will go away with one conflict. OP is gonna have to have a lot of patience if maintaining contact with them. But if her boyfriend continues to be factual and firm in their boundaries it should be manageable.
Kristen S
2025-01-07 23:22:52 +0000 UTCEw this family is so icky. Good for the BF setting boundaries but if they stay together, this is going to be a lifetime of drama and guilting and resentment from his family.
Ashley Courtney
2025-01-07 23:20:10 +0000 UTCI think the boyfriend is doing better. He noticed his mistake and is trying to fix it. I think as long as they keep standing up for each other they will be fine.
Katie Austin
2025-01-07 23:19:16 +0000 UTCI love this update for their relationship and the BF stepping up! Unfortunately, I think she’s also going to be stuck dealing with his family’s finance drama for the foreseeable future with the extreme jealously and entitlement the family has going on. Ooof.
Colleen Meier
2025-01-07 23:01:55 +0000 UTCOkay I really like that the boyfriend is starting to handle his family of origin! That’s the way it should be. I’m glad he stepped up and drew a line in the sand. I still think that the actions of the MIL and SIL are wild, even with the updates. I just hope OP doesn’t let her guilt get to her! I would hope that they continue doing combined gifts, or even make the gifts be more purposeful help.
Alison Seymour
2025-01-07 22:56:49 +0000 UTCthey are insaneee, straight up admitting they wanted her gifts for the pleasure of nice things, I get being in a tight situation money wise but good lord don't take advantage of people! and so blatantly!
Inês
2025-01-07 22:56:20 +0000 UTCSo her gifts were something that they loved so much and to show her that they decided to do all this bs?? Broke or not still kinda crazy
Ellery Lemiso
2025-01-07 22:55:12 +0000 UTCi’m glad he stood up for her!! idk how much i buy the “woe is me” debt angle though, and admitting they wanted to use her for luxury goods is insane. i’d go low contact.
nutmeg •
2025-01-07 22:52:12 +0000 UTC
