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Toxic Masculinity

Toxic Masculinity

Brat Emergency Hotline

Inspired by TODDLER FEELINGS HELPLINE by SARA GIVEN

Hello. You’ve reached the Brat Emergency Helpline. Please Choose from the following options:

* If you unpacked all the jute and hung it in the tallest tree in the garden, please hide for at least 48 hours.

* If you forgot to pack cupcakes into a good hiding place before you hung out the jute, you’re an idiot and this helpline is beyond assisting you.

* If you don’t like the way Sir Domly Pants prepared ...

Domly Dom Feelings Helpline

Variation of Toddler Feelings Helpline

Hello, you have reached the Domly Dom Feelings Helpline. Please choose from the following options:

• If your sub went to “clean the flogger” for a minute but returned empty handed covered in garden soil, please bash all of the keys very, veeeery patiently.
• If you found a rubber duck floating in your toilet, ...
  2024-02-03 04:36:58 +0000 UTC View Post

So You Want an Editor For Your First Book...

A reader recently asked me to recommend an editor for a NaNoWriMo book. I receive a lot of requests like that, and I only had to try to fulfil their requests once. The editors I know will not take on a project like that, but before we get into that, let’s look at what a developmental edit actually is. Line editing is like being a human version of Grammarly. You’re correcting typos and grammar. That’s it. NaNoWriMo types aren’t looking for human Grammarlies. They’re looking for a dev...

Greta Thunberg's Haters

Rape recovery is not a direction you need to go in. It's a country you need to explore blindfolded, guided by the voice of someone who knows the land.

Back when I was young and struggling with rape-related PTSD, people used to throw $1 advice at me all day and once more for dessert: “Stop thinking about your rape. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Trauma begets trauma. PTSD is a sign that you're obsessing about this assault. Try dance classes. Try homeopathy. Try hypnosis. Here. Have a hug, and while I'm rescuing you, tell me about that night in minute detail. It'll cure you. I read about it on WebMD”

A lot of that advice sounded w...

Not All Men

Not All Rapists Know They're Rapists (Obvious trigger warning is obvious)

“We’re not all trying to be creepy.” - A reader

When you see the aftermath of a lion kill, something in the ether isn’t quite right. You see the blood on the grass and gore in the dirt, but the moment feels as serene as any other. Putting necessity and Mother Nature’s inherent violence aside, lions don’t feel the lives they take. They don’t see the blood around them as gore. All it is to them is a dinner they were entitled to. They saw it. They chased it....

Nice Guys

He's Just Our Cute Neighbourhood Rapist

My uncle lives in a reserve called Marloth Park, where there are giraffes under your washing line and monkeys on your roof. Herbivores are welcome, but dangerous carnivores are moved to the Kruger Park lest they murder the residents.

Some years back, a crocodile found its way into a Marloth dam. The locals named him Charlie and collectively decided they wanted a carnivore in their backyards. The entire park learned the habit of silence. You did not talk about Charlie on social ...

Shallows

It takes a lot to make me resent the sight of a penis, but your cock shot avatar is a lot.

If I had the time, I would happily make a religion out of penises. I love them hard. I love them soft. I love them cut. I love them even more *un*cut. I have opinions about upward curves and philosophies about lack of curves. Mostly, I just want to put all of them in my mouth. If I was sluttier, I would set up a glory hole right outside my front gate. I’d love it if it was raining cocks (hallelujah).

I appreciate veins and lack of veins. I’ll take any colour and width. Essentially, ...

Fetlife Etiquette for Noobs

• It’s impolite to insert yourself into strangers’ sexual experiences without permission, so keep your imaginary hands and first-person pronouns out of your picture comments. “That’s gorgeous” is A-okay. “I want to put my [redacted] in your [redacted]” is not okay. “Good photograph” is A-okay. “Good girl” is not okay. If you think she took the picture for you please attend our class, "Recovering from Narcissism." During the course, you'll be blocked by 5 mil...
  2024-01-23 04:29:00 +0000 UTC View Post

This Doesn't Kill Me...

Explicit Photo Clickathons Are a Boundary Issue

I just had a fun conversation with a man we’ll call Steve. He didn’t kick up any dust. He was a perfectly likable guy, so naturally I clicked into his profile to find out where this cute li’l stranger had come from. All I saw there was me. Me in his activity feed. Me as his sole follow, and me in his reading material. That was more “me” than I was comfortable with. There’s something unsettling about occupying that much space in a stranger’s head. If we’ve never met, I prefer y...

My mother always said I gave too much

Indifferent men

Important Scientific Announcement on Brat Training

I just watched Canine Intervention and learned that dogs are more trainable when they have a dopamine hit. As a totally real, not-even-a-little-bit-fake scientist, I’m deeply committed to spreading scientific knowledge throughout the world. Science has determined, through my TV viewing, that providing treats enhances brat training. Spoiling brats has thus become An Official Domly Activity and will be added to The Dominant Duties Almanac of 1974.

At 9:00 tomorrow morning, all brats wil...

My Draw to Rape Play is Sexual (Trigger warning)

Some rape survivors have a masochistic draw to rape play. They want the pain. 

I don't.

Some rape survivors use it to release tears that have refused to fall.

I’ve done all the crying my rape required of me already. 

I love CNC, but not for the trauma. I'm just willing to risk it. If a scene works out perfectly, I won't be a shaking mess sobbing into the mud afterward. I’ll be grinning at my sadist and telling h...

Letters to People Who Write

Every now and then, people send me their writing for feedback. Today's request came from a new writer who's hoping to perfect the ancient art of smut. I hate smut beyond all reason, but I can fake it. I really can pretend I respect the genre. Just watch. 

Dear Smut Writer

As you suspected, your piece is all description and very little of anything else, but that's not the real problem. I imagine, judging from your piece, that you haven't made a skeleton for your s...