To me, New Years means…journals. There is just something about starting off the new year with empty, pristine pages in a brand new journal that speaks to the endless possibilities of the year ahead. Until I put pen to paper, anything is possible.
I used to buy and try out all different kinds of journals for different moods and purposes. In one season, I was feeling super crunchy, earth-momma and I had a journal with the phases of the moon and inspirational quotes.&nb...
2024-12-23 17:00:02 +0000 UTC
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December's Class, "Changing Perspectives in Power Exchange" w/Tart Barbie, is available in the store!
Many of the more common rules and protocols in power exchange exist because of tradition. What do you do if tradition for tradition's sake just doesn't resonate with you? Instead of struggling to accept something that doesn't make sense for you, let's flip it on its head. Step through the looking glass with me to discuss evaluating rules and protocols from a different perspective - one ...
2024-12-19 17:41:40 +0000 UTC
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It’s the gift giving season and ads are all about buying things to give to the people you love. These ads actually kind of bring me down even when logically I understand they’re just marketing to push people to spend money. The narrative seems to be that your love for someone can be judged by the gifts you give and it’s good to be in competition with others to give better or more lavish gifts.
This can sometimes bleed into our M/s or D/s relationships.
Years ago,...
2024-12-02 17:00:08 +0000 UTC
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Many of the more common rules and protocols in power exchange exist because of tradition. What do you do if tradition for tradition's sake just doesn't resonate with you? Instead of struggling to accept something that doesn't make sense for you, let's flip it on its head. Step through the looking glass with me to discuss evaluating rules and protocols from a different perspective - one that seeks to put feelings and desired outcomes above tradition.
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2024-11-25 17:13:25 +0000 UTC
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November's Class, "Handling Trauma in Authority-Based Relationships" w/ Sir Quill and His Mercy, is available for download in the store!
Past traumas can have a profound effect on authority-based relationships. Triggers can arise at any time that place a strain on core elements of relationships in ways that may defy formal contracts, protocols, and/or negotiated boundaries. In this interactive presentation and discussion, we will share experiences and explore ways in which we can navig...
2024-11-18 21:58:02 +0000 UTC
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By RedWarrior
Dating is tough, but mixing in Domination and submission and kink into the mix can make things even more complicated. You’ve been on some dates with someone and it’s looking good. The attraction and chemistry is there and you’re hopeful this is someone you could really explore BDSM with. Now what?
There are a few different schools of thought and a lot to consider when talking about forming a new D/s or M/s relationship.
If you’re da...
2024-10-28 17:00:06 +0000 UTC
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By RedWarrior
Twue submission comes only from a certain region of BDSMtopia. All other submission is really just sparkling codependency!
Ok, I’m mostly just kidding there, but this writing is probably going to step on some toes. It might help to know that this realization definitely stomped on my own toes and I’m still processing that myself. I’m realizing that a lot of what I thought was my submission was actually codependency and I think it’s...
2024-10-21 17:00:08 +0000 UTC
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The Dominant role in a dynamic is usually perceived as one who is put together, confident, and social. However, many people on the left side of the slash suffer from mental health conditions that make fitting this perception difficult. Leading a dynamic while having to fight through depression, social anxiety, or poor self image may cause some to fee that they are not "Dominant enough" for their partners and their community. What those people may not know is that they are not alone, and that ...
2024-10-21 13:58:23 +0000 UTC
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"Moments That Matter" with Beast & Echo is available for download through SADE's online store!
Sometimes, everything comes together just right to create a perfect moment, one that shapes our life, provides direction and meaning, or cements a lasting memory. Many of us spend much of our lives chasing those moments. Imagine being able to intentionally create and craft these moments within your relationships, dynamics, and your Leather and kink experience. In this session, Beast...
2024-09-18 00:17:08 +0000 UTC
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By RedWarrior
Matching energy is a term that’s being used in dating circles to basically describe putting as much time and care into a relationship as the other person is giving. Early on in dating this might mean restricting your texting to an amount similar to what the other person is doing or no longer contacting them at all if it seems like you’re always the one initiating. Often it seems like early relationships feel like a game of emotional chicken, where ea...
2024-09-03 15:00:04 +0000 UTC
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By RedWarrior
In an ideal world, we would all find the partners who were into exactly the kind of things we are into, at the exact same level. Unfortunately, especially when it comes to power exchange, it can be really challenging to find someone who matches you perfectly, especially when there are other considerations that come into play.
When I am dating trying to find a Dominant or Master or Mistress, it often seems like Mission Impossible. I want some...
2024-08-27 15:08:34 +0000 UTC
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Sometimes, everything comes together just right to create a perfect moment, one that shapes our life, provides direction and meaning, or cements a lasting memory. Many of us spend much of our lives chasing those moments. Imagine being able to intentionally create and craft these moments within your relationships, dynamics, and your Leather and kink experience. In this session, Beast and echo will share their approach to curating these moments and provide the tools necessary for you to take th...
2024-08-24 16:27:42 +0000 UTC
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"Feeding a Dynamic Through Service, Training, and Appreciation" with Sir Tee and little kitsune is available for download through SADE's online store!
This class explores how we can fully access the benefits and potential, the giving or receiving service, can create for a Dynamic. Service has the potential to not only bring joy, but it can also help to strengthen, sustain, and feed the dynamic. When service is performed with intention and mindfulness, the act can be transformed into a ...
2024-08-19 19:48:10 +0000 UTC
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This class explores how we can fully access the benefits and potential, the giving or receiving service, can create for a Dynamic. Service has the potential to not only bring joy, but it can also help to strengthen, sustain, and feed the dynamic. When service is performed with intention and mindfulness, the act can be transformed into a powerful exchange: an expression of love, and/or a way to demonstrate honour and respect for each other - and the dynamic - taking the ordinary and making it ...
2024-08-06 00:40:51 +0000 UTC
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If you missed July's class on the 16th, here is where you can view it whenever you want!
You can watch the class for a one-time fee of $20; paid members watch free as part of their membership!
"Power permeates our every interpersonal interaction, from how we interact with the grocery clerk to our kink in the bedroom, and there is a difference between unconscious and conscious power use. However, in a variety of alternative sexuality and BDSM populations, these concepts are eroti...
2024-07-19 19:02:30 +0000 UTC
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"Conscious Inequality, Dominance, and Submission" livestreaming on Tuesday, July 16th at 8pm CDT. Reserve your spot at https://www.crowdcast.io/c/23z5oblodf3n
Remember, this class is available to all Patrons who are Scholar-level and up! Here's the breakdown on how to reserve your spot for this class: https://fetlife.com/us...
2024-07-16 20:54:09 +0000 UTC
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In this video, Lee Harrington talks about what inspired their upcoming class, "Conscious Inequality, Dominance, and Submission".
Watch the full interview at https://www.patreon.com/posts/interview-with-107745474?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare...
2024-07-13 18:47:24 +0000 UTC
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We sit down to talk with Lee Harrington about their upcoming class "Conscious Inequality, Domination, and Submission"! Lee explains that we all experience power differential relationships in our every day life in ways we may not be aware of. We also discuss what prompted them to create the class and who the class is for, along with some of their influences in their professional kink career and advice to others who may want to teach themselves.
2024-07-08 15:02:53 +0000 UTC
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By RedWarrior
Disclaimer - This is all, 100 percent my views and perspective when I’m single. Do as you will in your own life and relationships.
I sometimes struggle with labels when I’m single. Am I still a slave without a Master? Am I a submissive if I rarely see anyone I would submit to? What am I if I am not defined in relation to another? As I journey along this path now as a single person, I’m finding more and more that who I am is not as different ...
2024-07-02 22:14:54 +0000 UTC
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Live at https://crowdcast.io/c/23z5oblodf3n for all SADE Patreons
2024-06-15 21:53:38 +0000 UTC
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Conscious Inequality, Dominance, and Submission w/ Lee Harrington
Power permeates our every interpersonal interaction, from how we interact with the grocery clerk to our kink in the bedroom, and there is a difference between unconscious and conscious power use. However, in a variety of alternative sexuality and BDSM populations, these concepts are eroticized, often glossing over the context where these consensual erotic power plays come from. Let’s examine where pow...
2024-06-15 21:48:22 +0000 UTC
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Meet our next presenters, 2022 Midwest Power Exchange titleholders BlkDiamond and HisAmira! We talk about their upcoming class, "Progressive Gor for the 21st Century", their Total Power Exchange dynamic and what that looks like in public, and many of the sources that inspired their relationship.
2024-06-15 21:36:59 +0000 UTC
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Our upcoming presenters BlkDiamond and HisAmira talk about how they navigate their High Protocol Power Exchange Dynamic in public spaces.
2024-06-15 21:08:01 +0000 UTC
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By RedWarrior
A lot of Dominants and Masters or Mistresses can have all the mojo in the world and talk a good game, but when it comes to assessing a potential D or M type for more than just casual pickup play, the devil, as they say, is in the details.
These are just the things I’ve started to look at, based on my own personal experience and why I look for them, not necessarily what anyone else should look for. Take what works for you and leave the rest.
2024-06-15 21:05:34 +0000 UTC
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Our upcoming presenters BlkDiamond and HisAmira tell us about how they developed a progressive form of Gorean power exchange dynamic.
2024-06-15 21:01:18 +0000 UTC
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By RedWarrior
For most of my kink life, I’ve never understood D/s, let alone part-time D/s. I’ve very much been an all-or-nothing, off or on kind of person when it came to BDSM. I had 2 long term M/s relationships and barely dabbled in D/s. I fell hard and fast and quickly started living with both of my Masters.
But life has a way of taking us in directions we can’t anticipate and now I’m in a part-time D/s relationship and…thriving!
2024-06-15 20:58:42 +0000 UTC
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SADE interviews their latest presenter Stormy! We talk about how they began their journey in kink, how they became an educator, and preview their class "We've Got the Dynamic, Now What?"
2024-06-15 20:56:04 +0000 UTC
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2024-06-15 20:34:32 +0000 UTC
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